I feel as though I've gotten pretty controversial lately, and I swear it was completely accidental. Whether it's standing up against North Carolina's deplorable Amendment One or sticking up for Jamie Grumet, the mom on the now infamous cover of this week's Time Magazine, I seem to be pissing people off right and left. I think what all of this conflict comes down to is judgement. And judgement is what I want to write about today. No other group is as judgmental, or as JUDGED, as mothers. I think a lot of it stems from an innate yearning to be the best mother possible. If another mother does something differently than I do that must mean one of two things, either she's a better mother than I am or she's wrong. Isn't that the internal dialogue? We don't mean to feel this way, and it's not really our fault. We are made that way, and the media surely doesn't help the situation. I know I get judged all the time. And it hurts. I'm gonna go out on a limb here, but I really don't give a crap that this Jamie Grumet still breastfeeds her preschooler. That is her choice. She is obviously an intelligent, well-spoken woman who has her child's best interest at heart. Whether or not I agree with what is is doing is immaterial. I refuse to slam her for her choices. And guess what? I bet that 20 years from now her son and my daughter (who are the same age) will both be well-rounded adults. So in light of Mothers day I have a question. Are you mom enough? Are you mom enough to stop judging other mothers's decisions? Are you mom enough to know in your heart that what other mothers do has NO BEARING on how good of a mother YOU are? Are you mom enough to stop seeking validation in other mom's perceived faults? Can we all give the Mom Wars a rest and move on to more important issues? I could write about this all day, as it has been on my heart for a while now, but my 3-year-old is painting herself, the table, and the wall with chocolate pudding. Until next time my friends, Happy Mothers Day!