She may look sweet and innocent, but watch out!
Anywho, I dropped the girls off there this morning and had some me time. I took a nap, browsed Shabby Apple for dresses I can't afford, and generally did nothing (and it was wonderful!) When I went to pick them up I was feeling pretty good.
I walked in and overheard one of the teachers on the phone with a parent. She was saying, "Another child bit a chunk out of her arm. I put ice on it, but it's still bleeding and she's crying and she wants to go home." First I thought, 'poor kiddo, I hope she's ok' directly followed by, 'I hope that dirty little biter doesn't come here often.' Right around that time the teacher hung up the phone and said, "It was Caroline that bit her." (FACEPALM). Apparently if she does it again she will be banned from the place.
I am HORRIFIED. As some of you know, Caroline has SPD (more on that HERE), but that's no excuse. I asked her why she did it, and she said, "she take-a my Woody doll." Well at least she had a reason.
Usually a post like this would illicit a call from my mother who would have great advice for me. She would make me feel like Supermom, even though right now my kid is a dirty little biter. She was so good at making me feel better. But now she's gone, and I don't know what to do about the biting.
Something Charlotte said to me earlier today is now ringing in my ears. I was laying in bed missing mom, and Char laid down beside me. She said, "sorry you don't feel good, it's too bad you don't have a Mom anymore." Even my 5-year-old knows that you're never to old to need your Mommy.
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Although I have no advice for you, I just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I agree that parenting is tricky, especially when it comes to our children's behaviour.
ReplyDeleteI have no advice, just some moral support and just wanted you to know I am thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about your Mum, Mum's always know the right thing to say.
ReplyDeleteTry to think about what your Mum would have said to you when you were a kid and misbehaving? Most of all, don't worry too much. Kid's do these things, they have their moments just like us.
We may not bite or kick or pinch or any of those lovely habits that seem to make up part of a toddler(mine included) but we sure have our own little hissy fits (well, I know I do anyway!) Hopefully next time she'll be a good girl. All will be fine.
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Hmm...The first thing that jumped into my head was that because of her SPD (yeah, I don't know that much about it...) she thought that the girl she bit would 'appreciate' being bit. That is, maybe her thought process was "I would feel that...so she probably would too, and she needs that because its wrong to take my toy away". I'm sorry for you. Maybe you can make her a 'Bad Dolly" So, it's like a rag-doll and it has removable ears/hair/hands whatever and then the child can destroy the doll when she's mad. Instead of destroying a real kid. (It sounds good on paper...I don't know if it actually works, I suppose the point is you showed her an actual, physical alternative to hurting others when she's mad)
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